Thursday, 8 March 2012

Nice guys

You ever wonder why bad boys get all the good babes?
you see this lady, obviously well trained and with good family background,
yet shes in a mindless, all consuming relationship with a "good-for-nothing
bastard". This makes you and I wonder why right?
we usually begin to snicker and make such comments like "Girlfriend, open your eyes!", "You deserve better than this" or "Abi na jazz?"

Likewise some bad girls end up with very good guys
After countless abortions, exposing themselves to all sorts in their youth, 
then when they are ready to settle down.....
Viola! They get a perfect guy, gorgeous and all.

Here in my opinion are some of the reason why i think nice guys don't win the win the women, in fact bad guys do....I'm not saying all of this cause of a silent crave for a bad guy
neither do i want my very nice bobo to have a change in personality.
Just feel its better to be real than pretend to be a NICE GUY 

Nice Guys Don't Put Themselves First
One of their biggest problem is that most are hideously insecure.
They are so anxious to be liked and loved. 
They do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention,
rather than for the simple pleasure of giving.
They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own need
and place the object of their desire on a pedestal.
Instead of appreciating us, they worship us.
We are only humans and pedestals are narrow confining places to be on-
not to mention the fact that we tend to fall off them
Nice guys rarely speak up when something bothers them,
and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect.
They fear that any kind of conflict might spell then end of the relationship.
Instead of compromising and negotiating, they repeatedly give in.
When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice,
they will complain saying "Everything i did, i did for her"
as if that somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs.
A woman doesn't want a martyr,
she wants an equal, caring, adult partner.

Its Easier For Nice Guys To Mess Up
Having a brand as a "nice guy" enormously raises expectations:
The truth is, no one is nice 100% of the time,
even if they screw up by accident.
The difference is that when the when the slightly jerky guy screws,
"that's just how he is sometimes",
whereas when the nice guy screws up,
he's perceived as a hypocrite who was only pretending to be nice all along. 

Nice Guys Take Too Long To Recover
Bad guys shrug off rejection fast.
Nice guys by contrast, work very slowly.
If they get rejected, they spend weeks or months licking their wounds
before restarting the cycle.

Nice Guys Have Hidden Agenda
in general, being a good person is attractive.
For some nice guys, their niceness is not real.
Such a guy get into the habit of performing services for these women,
trying to ingratiate himself into their company.

Now you may begin to wonder,
"what's going on here?", "what does women really want!"
Its actually very simple.
Women at times don't base their choice of men on how nice he is.
They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful gut level of attraction (not compulsorily sexual) to them.
And guess what?
Being a nice guy wont make a woman feel that powerful attraction to you.
And being 'overtly nice' wont make a woman choose you.
A woman can instinctively perceive pretense.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense and may be hard to accept
but just as the cliche says:
Nice Guys Finish Last


  1. This is actually a nice post,even though i don't agree with some of the listed,but you hit it right on some points though.

  2. Thanks. Totally in love with nice people, just stating some observations based on the pretentious nature of people these days.