When we are confused, we need lots of advice from advice from everyone.
We constantly begin asking people around us their opinion about what we should do.
This is a covert way of being irresponsible! Not only do we not have to make any decisions ourselves, but if the advice other give doesn't work, we can still blame THEM for the outcome.
Constantly asking for advice to help us with our confusion is a way to remain a child and avoid growing up.
We secretly, or not so secretly always want to be rescued , perhaps by the "daddy" we never had.